They will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
The “inherent” non attraction to PoC is always, always, always a product of embedded racism. I’ve seen people who say, “I’m just not attracted to ___” and then when they start opening their eyes and realizing, “Holy shit, we do live in a white supremacist world that has completely corrupted by views of darker skinned human beings.” They start to see that they actually are attracted to PoC. You can hold onto being the one exception, but you’d be wrong. Educate yourself and open your fucking mind.
You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman.
So many people view depression as sadness. And while being sad is certainly a part of depression, it is not the same thing. Someone mourning the death of a loved one isn’t automatically depressed. They are grief stricken. It might become depression, but it’s not the same thing. Depression is something deeper than sadness. And it’s something that is really hard to pin down, because so many people experience so many different things while depressed. It’s something that’s very real, very painful and can be very scary. It’s also something I wish people would be more educated on. It’s not something that just ‘goes away’ or can be easily ‘gotten over’. It’s an illness. We don’t tell someone with a broken leg to suck it up and walk anyway, so why on earth are we telling people with mental illness to just get better?
As a society, the questions are always on ‘should a girl be wearing that?’ or ‘is she going to be able to avoid the attention?’. The question is never ‘why does a guy think it’s acceptable to treat a woman like that just because of what she’s wearing? Why do we constantly sexualize women without their consent? Talk to any woman and she’s gonna have a story about being shouted at in the street or being harassed in some way because of what you’re wearing. When that happens to you regularly it dehumanises you, it’s not a compliment. We should really be focusing on teaching young boys, y’know, if you see a girl wearing that, then she’s still just a girl wearing that. She’s not ‘fair game’, you shouldn’t treat people differently based on what they’re wearing.
My ramble on The Joy of Teen Sex. We also talked a lot about the diversity at the event, the problems relating to slutwalk and about how it’s not just cis-women who are affected by slut-shaming. We talked about whether we’d feel differently if we were bringing up daughters (um, no, I will never teach a child of mine that they are responsible for being raped) and about whether we really can change people’s attitudes. This is the bit they picked. It’s…well, it’s better than nothing! We’ve already got people coming to the Slutwalk group because of it.
If you want to see it, it’s about 36mins in: http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-joy-of-teen-sex/4od#3264188
And I think that’s just about enough self-promotion/slutwalk-promotion for one night.
Women in the world still bear most of the violence, do most of the work and get less of the salary. We’ve come a long way in consciousness and made a lot of strides, but this is just the beginning.
What women will sometimes do is say ‘I’m no feminist but…’ and then everything that comes out of her mouth is rip-roaring, furious feminism!
From the article:
Know so many people like this!
Not being assaulted is not a privilege to be earned through the judicious application of personal safety strategies. A woman should be able to walk down the street at 4 in the morning in nothing but her socks, blind drunk, without being assaulted, and I, for one, am not going to do anything to imply that she is in any way responsible for her own assault if she fails to Adequately Protect Herself. Men aren’t helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help raping a vulnerable woman. It disrespects EVERYONE.